Self Compassion

Henry has learnt how to be an expert at self compassion; choosing to ignoring the internal and external critics and instead, showing himself kindness, grace and acceptance.

We are constantly being compared and comparing ourselves to others. We see our sufferings as weakness. We see mistakes as failures and our illnesses as brokenness. We are constantly believing we are not good enough. I call bull-crap. They’re LIES! All lies.

To endure suffering is strength, to feel emotions makes us human, to persevere makes us strong and to measure ourselves up to no one but ourselves is freedom. The reality is that crap that is out of our control happens all the time. We all have bad, hard, painful and unbearable seasons in life. So instead of beating yourself up (or allowing others to do it for you), remind yourself; you’re doing the best you can, emotions are okay, you’re not perfect (and that’s not only alright, but what makes you human) and that you’re pretty, freaking amazing.

Begin practicing self compassion by putting your hand over your heart and saying to yourself, “may I know kindness. May I know grace. May I know happiness. May I be at peace. May I be at rest. May I know love. May I know empathy. May I show myself compassion.” Or “I am suffering. I am being kind to myself and giving myself permission to feel whatever emotions I am experiencing.

Be like Henry, learn the skill of self compassion. Be kind to yourself and stop beating yourself up! Self-compassion has been a life changing skill for Henry as he manages depression and FND.


Spiritual reflection

For those who believe in God, remember he is a compassionate God, who continually shows compassion to his people.

Is. 49:3 – Shout for joy, you heavens; rejoice, you earth; burst into song, you mountains! For the LORD comforts his people and will have compassion on his afflicted ones.

Jesus is the perfect example of this… oh, and we are also made in His image and are called to imitate His character.

Col. 3:12 – Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience.

So, let’s follow God and show compassion to everyone, including ourselves.


Some more information/resources on the concept of self-compassion:

A Psalm: for Depression

Mighty God, Powerful Saviour;

My heart is breaking at its very core.
    When I look at the sinfulness and brokenness of this world,
    the injustice and hypocrisy –

    I just want to leave it all behind, forever.

My body is so tired and weary –
    every movement aches
    every motion is laborsome.
A knot sits in the pit of my stomach –
    I’m nauseous.
    I’ve stopped eating.
I wake during the night –

    my sleep is restless, fragmented.

My brain has turned against me –
    it has become my enemy.
    It has betrayed me,
    it is trying to kill me,
    it wants me to die –

I have no greater enemy than myself.

I am lost,
I am torn,
I am broken,
I am hurting, and

I feel stuck in the depths of this pit of despair.

But you, Lord, you hear my cry,
    you read my thoughts,
    you feel my pain, my anguish –
and you never abandon me,

    you never leave me alone in the mess.

Lord, please deliver me –
    rescue me from myself

    and the web of lies my brain has caught me in.

Lord, lift my soul from this darkness

    and bring me into your glorious light.

Lord, show me your loving kindness –
    your mercy and compassion.

Don’t leave me alone and abandoned in this lifeless pit.

Lord, please remind me
    of your glorious deeds
    and perfect promises

as you fulfil them every day.

I know the day of the Your return is near!
    But please protect and preserve me
    during these dark hours of the night,
that I may not be destroyed in my despair.

 

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Watercolour cloud painted by Alexandra Ellen on 29.1.18

Painting as I enter 2017

My prayer for 2017 is Jeremiah 17:7-8; that each day I will place my trust and confidence in the creator, like a tree planted by a stream. May I continue to grow and bear fruit, even in the metaphorical heat! Praise the Lord for 2016; a year of mercy, grace, blessings, mourning, sorrow, growth and transformation.

#2017 #2016 #newyear #art #arttherapy #jeremiah1778 #faith #personalgrowth #spirituality

I’ll Endure Until I’m Cured

This is step six in the grow program: I’ll endure until I’m cured.

I will persevere and I will fight. When I feel I can no longer withstand the discomfort and pain I can turn to my sisters to give me strength until I can see a glimpse of hope again.

I can hold onto God’s promise that says one day I will be healed completely. I will have a beautiful, disease free body. So, even if there may be no cure (for me: endo, PCOS or depression) in my lifetime, I know one day I will be completely cured from all that hurts me today.

Don’t be Imprisoned by the Here and Now

It’s Endo awareness month; so I thought I’d share what hope looks like for me. Like many of us with endo and other chronic illness, we often have more than one issue we have to deal with in our lives. The primary problem becomes compounded by other issues; compromised immune systems, mental illness, chronic pain and other diseases. I’ve had clinical depression for 15 years and am convinced that it’s the reason why the pelvic pain moved from “acute” and “chronic.” It wasn’t until I learnt to manage the depression that I was able to manage the chronic pain – it was a vicious cycle. I was part of a “Grow Group” which is a 12 step program for mental illness (like AA).

Over the next week I will share three quotes from the Grow Blue Book (or the program). These have been one strategy that has enabled me to avoid reacting emotionally to the physical symptoms I regularly experience. It’s enabled me to gain a sense of control over something I have no control over. Even though I am trapped in an endo-infested body, it no longer infects my mind and heart. I am free!

Don’t be imprisoned by the ‘here and now.’ Nothing is forever. I am strong. One day there could be a cure. One day you may try a new treatment that helps. One day you will meet someone who understands and takes you seriously. Just because it sucks today, doesn’t mean it will “always” this sucky.

We can have hope by focusing on “facts,” not just fluffly positivity. We can have hope because we have been beautifully and wonderfully made by the creator of the universe. We can have hope because we have a purpose in life. We can have hope because we made it through the days past. We can have hope because we made it through today. We can have hope because every day endo awareness increases. We can have hope because science and technology is constantly evolving and developing. We can have hope because we have each other and we ARE loved.

I have hope because the God who made me loves me, supports me, cares for me, provides for me, sustains me and promises me a place in His new creation. Jesus death and resurrection has given me assured hope that one day I will be given a new body that will never be corrupted from rebelling against God’s good and perfect plan. I can look forward to Jesus returning, when, I will one day know true freedom and will be eternally safe from sickness, sadness and sin.

For more info on Grow check them out: http://www.grow.org.au